I think putting up limitations in our life is short-sighted. Why only allow yourself access to a part of what life has to offer? That has never made any sense to me. By doing that, you’re closing yourself off to the possibility that something, or someone, could be out there who could make your life better.
Women tend to this in relationships. They narrow their choices down to a certain type of man, a certain age range, even by height. All the while they bitch and moan about how there aren’t any “good men” out there to date.
Gee, I wonder why.
All of this brings me in a weird non-linear way to my thoughts about online dating. I know many people who have tried online dating. I see no reason to look down upon it in disdain. As I mentioned before, why close yourself off to a possibility? That’s ignorant in my opinion.
Anyway, I know people who have tried online dating. I know people who’ve met their husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends online and rave about it. I know others who have found it to be a waste of their time.
I fall in the latter group.
The reason why I’ve found it to be a waste of time is because I think most women aren’t there for the right reasons. They aren’t there to find someone to meet. They’re there to find out, in essence, how popular they are.
Think about it – even the most unattractive woman by virture of her very gender can get laid. They can walk into just about any room, find a guy, tell them they’d like to have sex and they will have sex by the end of the day. It may take all day, but at some point during that day they will have sex.
It’s how the process works.
Anyway, with online dating, I get the impression many women there aren’t really there to meet a guy they might like to see, much less fall in love with. I get the impression they go to these places for an ego boost. They want to see how many messages they get, how many times their profiles get viewed and who wants to add them as friends (assuming they’re on My Space). I don’t get a sense that many, be sure to note I’m not saying all, women aren’t there for the same reasons many men are.
To genuinely meet someone.
Meeting someone isn’t that hard if you’re willing to open yourself up to new possibilities. That means not having some preconceived idea of who it is you want to meet. How old they should be. How tall they should be. What color hair they have. That’s not to say attractiveness isn’t important. We all want to be attracted to the person we’re with. But if you box yourself in to a preconceived idea of who you should be with, then it’s very possible the person who’s actually good for you or right for you is going to end up with someone else.
And if that happens, don’t bitch about the fact there aren’t any “good men” out there. The problem, my dear, is with you.